You Can Only Control Yourself… Right Now

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Wow I opened up my Word Press account and it said it had been 4 months since my last blog.  My how time flies.  It’s not that I didn’t have things to write about, it’s more the fact I didn’t keep it a priority.  I let life get in the way.  The thing is life always gets in the way if you let it.  Life always puts things on the back-burner.  Life gets in the way of losing weight, finding a new job, improving yourself, etc.  You name it life will throw things at you that will distract you and delay your journey.  All you have to do is take a look at social media to realize that distractions are everywhere.  You can look at Facebook and all of a sudden it’s 30 minutes later and you literally accomplished nothing beside liking a couple selfies and the way it seems lately posting a political statement or article that pisses off half your friends because they’re on the other side.

Kids will be going back to school soon and September is almost here already.  Are you F#@*%!G kidding me?!?!?  September?  Where did 2016 go?  Hunting season is coming and while I am loving it, it is also scary about how life is passing by.

As we all know 2016 did not start off good at all and while I thought I came through the immediate time period pretty good, the past few months it almost feels like however well I did at the beginning of the year, is how bad I have been the past few months.  I talk about controlling your thoughts and even have the wrist band that says “No Negativity Allowed.”  Well I totally disregarded that in many ways.  I felt off.  I haven’t felt myself totally.  To be honest I haven’t been happy.  It took me a while but I have occasionally continued to read books as well as listen to audios to try and feed my mind.

What has truly come out of that is my understanding of why I was off.  I took the focus off of what I can control.  I focused on helping others.  I was focusing on trying to help someone get healthy and lose weight, advance a business, or even just telling people to come see me to get treated so they could get out of pain.  The thing is a lot of people didn’t move forwards, didn’t progress, and I took that very hard.  I took it hard that I was more motivated to help them than they were to help themselves.  I internalized this and it affected me profoundly.  That is why I was “off.”

What I am really becoming more conscious of doing is that I have control over a few things.  The things that I have control over are my thoughts and my actions.  More importantly I can only control those right now.  I can’t change what happened yesterday nor can I worry about the future.  I can consciously focus on what is in my mind right now, and more importantly the actions I take right now.  I can’t worry myself about other people’s actions or lack of.  Please don’t take that as I don’t care about people because I do.  I wouldn’t be in my profession if I didn’t.  What I do need to do is be able to separate myself from the decisions other people make and let them make their own mistakes.  If someone wants to lose weight but feels it is more important to drink most weekends, that is their choice.  All I can do is offer my help.  If someone wants to grow their business but hasn’t put much time doing the things necessary to grow it over the past few months, that is their business.  All I can do is let them know I’m here to help when they’re ready.

There is that saying that today is a gift, that is why it’s called the present.  So my goal from now on is to appreciate today.  Not worry about tomorrow.  Still let people know I’m here to help when they’re ready.  Finally I am here to control my thoughts, keep things positive, and most importantly take actions that will help me improve myself and my situation.

 

Week 24: I Am My Own Worst Enemy

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Well we’re getting close to the end of this 26 weeks learning about myself.  Trying to develop myself into a much more self directed, free thinking person.  It’s been 25 weeks of ups and some of the lowest lows I’ve ever had and perhaps one of the biggest lessons that I finally realized was in this past week.  I know I’ve talked about our impact.  I know I’ve talked about keeping positive thoughts.  I know I’ve talked about having no opinions.  I know I’ve talked about many other things in the past almost 6 months.

For the past month or two I’ve been asking myself a questions everyday and trying to figure out the answer.  “What am I pretending not to know?”  That’s an interesting question.  What does that mean?  Well what I’m saying is what am I lying to myself about.  What am I doing that I just talked about in my previous blog post?  In my mind and what actually caused some tears after last Sunday’s webinar is the true fact that I am truly in control of my life and truly have created what I have.

I know I have said it before but it is finally hitting me.  I am in the situation I am in because of not just my actions, but my thoughts, even those tiny little ones I feel are insignificant.  My chiropractic business is where it is at because of my actions and every thought I have.  When I go in with a patient and find out they aren’t doing what I’ve been teaching them to do to help get out of pain was first planted in my mind previously that I gave them the stretches with the tiny thought that they probably wouldn’t do it.  My relationships with my family are the way they are because of preconceived notions.  My life at home with my fiancee and her daughter, while good could always be better, are where they are because not only of my actions, but of the thoughts I ignore sometimes.  I go into things with an expectation and guess what? What I expect to happen acutally happens!!

So what does this mean?  I can totally change everything.  I didn’t realize the true impact I have on me, my life, and the people around me.  I couldn’t let go of my opinions and become a true observer of life.  I had my thoughts and notions have so much impact on my life that I keep manifesting exactly what my thoughts and notions said.

My biggest struggle is to become the quiet observer. To just sit there without any preconceptions. To not impose my thoughts over anybody.  This may sound crazy but look at quantum physics and the electron.  When an electron wasn’t being observed passing through a double slit it did one thing on the panel behind the slits.  When the physicists actually tried to observe the electron as they passed through the double slits, the electron did another thing.  We have science there to tell us that we can control things through observation.  We have an impact.  I know I sound crazy but it’s not the first nor is it going to be the last time you call me crazy.

Now moving onto perhaps the biggest thing I have taken away from my time with the MKMMA and it goes with this quote.

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When you realize this you’ll be free.  What I mean by this is no price is too high to pay to figure out what your purpose in life is.  You can never go too far trying to find out who you were meant to be and what you were meant to do.  I’ve come to the realization that we don’t truly live until we find our purpose.  I go to a  little clip from the movie Adaptation where the guy is talking about a flower that is very deep and would need an insect with a 12″ nose to pollinate it.  Darwin hypothesized that there was an insect with a 12″ nose around to pollinate it otherwise how else would it continue to live?  He was right.  In the movie the guys talks about this flower and insect and their relationship and here is how he ends it.

“Point is, what’s so wonderful is that every one of these flowers has a specific relationship with the insect that pollinates it. There’s a certain orchid look exactly like a certain insect so the insect is drawn to this flower, its double, its soul mate, and wants nothing more than to make love to it. And after the insect flies off, spots another soul-mate flower and makes love to it, thus pollinating it. And neither the flower nor the insect will ever understand the significance of their lovemaking. I mean, how could they know that because of their little dance the world lives? But it does. By simply doing what they’re designed to do, something large and magnificent happens. In this sense they show us how to live, how the only barometer you have is your heart. How, when you spot your flower, you can’t let anything get in your way.”

What this comes down to is the fact that your purpose is the flower and you’re the insect.  You’re one thing that you were meant to do in life is there, you just need to find it.  Pollinate it.  Let it grow.  In the grand scheme of the world it may be something huge or pretty insignificant, but who cares.  In the grand scheme o f your life your purpose is everything.

We weren’t meant to work 40-50 hours a week for 40-50 years only to retire when our bodies are falling or have fallen apart and sometimes our minds have as well.  The other part is many people don’t make it to that point.  My cousin John had a great life, but he’ll never be able to get to that point.  A 17 year old where I live just passed away this week and she’ll never be able to find her purpose and truly live life.  Why spend it binge watching Gray’s anatomy, Lost, or Walking Dead?  Is that what you were put on this earth for?  Is that what you feel God wants you to do?  I doubt it.  One of the biggest tragedies is not living up to our potential and sitting there on our death bed and having our talents surround us looking back at us wondering why we spent our time doing nothing.  Putting more effort into a party with our friends than trying to help ourselves live to our fullest potential. I’ve done this too so I;m not pointing fingers at anyone.  What I do know is that my eyes are even more open to what I am doing to affect my life, and what I can do to make it better.  I hope you figure out the same.

Till Next Time

Dr. Christopher “TINY” Lane

Week 23: Don’t Drain Yourself

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I’ve had this picture above up previously and I see it, but don’t always follow up.  I continue to get in my own way.  The thing is that we all get in our own way.  The problem is that we lie to ourselves.  We tell ourselves we’re happy.  We tell ourselves we’re satisfied with how we look and feel physically.  We tell ourselves that we’ll just stay with this job.  The thing is we keep lying to ourselves.  What happens is that we continue to defend ourself to ourself and that drains us.  We spend so much time justifying what is going on in our lives and the thing is it drains us of our energy, motivation, drive, vitality, and most importantly it drains us of our LOVE.

The thing is that not only do we lie to ourselves but we also tend to live our lives trapped by dogma, which is living with the results of other peoples’ thinking.  Other people won’t die for you so don’t let them live for you.  We at some point need to become our true self.  The person we were meant to be.  The person that takes no effort to be.  The person that you can look at in the mirror and say “I did my best today with what I had.  Let’s do it again tomorrow.”

I saw this quote today and it really hits home hard.

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At times I am myself.  At times I’m an not true to myself.  What has that done to me?  It’s drained me.  It’s made me not the best person I can be.  Worst of all it’s robbed me of some of my love for everything.  Don’t get me wrong I still show love, but not to the best of my abilities.  This was a tough day today realizing this.  This was a great step.

Till Next Time

Dr. Christopher “TINY” Lane

Week 22A: It’s Your Fault

 

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So I’m sure you looked at the title and thought that it was fairly blunt.  The next thing you’re wondering is what did I do wrong?  Well what I want to tackle this week is where people are at in their lives, and yes this includes me.  Now brace yourselves.  This next statement is in all capital letters not because I’m yelling but because I want to be sure you truly internalize it.

YOU ARE EXACTLY AT THE PLACE IN YOUR LIFE YOU’RE MEANT TO BE AND YOU ARE THERE BECAUSE OF YOUR CHOICES AND NO OTHER REASON.

Wow that’s a little sobering isn’t it?  The reason you’re overweight is because of you.  The reason you hate your job is because of you.  The reason you’re in a relationship that isn’t good for you is because of you.  The reason you’re life isn’t where you want it is because of you.  It’s not due to genetics, your ex wife/husband, your parents, your education, or anything else, it is because of you and the choices you made.  Now it wasn’t just one choice that made you unhealthy and overweight, it was small daily choices you continued to make over and over that added up to you being unhealthy.  It wasn’t one choice that put you in the relationship you’re in.  It took many small choices to stick around even after there were some things telling you that maybe you shouldn’t be in that relationship.  The same holds true for your job and every other facet of your life.

It’s tough to admit that but once you do I’m telling you things will change.  How?  Well the biggest thing is you quit playing the victim.  Once you quit playing the victim the biggest thing that you can get out of that is not only are you where you’re at in life because of your choices, but now it gives the control of your life back to you and it puts all the power into your hands to change it.  Isn’t that awesome?  You and only you have the power to make those changes.  If you’re the victim yet, that change won’t happen.  Once you take responsibility you have taken all the power back and can now start making those same simple small choices and actions daily to get your life moving in a better direction.

All too often today people blame their problems on everything else but themselves, and that creates this feeling that there is no way out.  But as I told you above there is.  People talk about massive action all the time, but many of the the biggest successes out there did small simple tasks day after day until one day it looks like they were an overnight success.

So take that power back and find a few small things you can do everyday and soon your life will change.

Till Next Time

Dr. Christopher “TINY” Lane

 

Week 22: Be The Miracle

 

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So this week was a good week for me and honestly I’m excited to be doing another week with the same readings.  The 15 minutes I sit at night and meditated/relaxed my mind/reflected was great this week.  We were supposed to concentrate on Tennyson’s lines “Speak to Him, thou, for He hears, and spirit with spirit can meet, Closer is He than breathing, and nearer than hands and feet.”  In focusing on “speaking to him” you are in touch with the omnipotence.

So on March 2nd I turned 39 years old.  My how they go by in a blink.  The thing that I couldn’t figure out was which was more shocking to me; the fact that I’m 39 or the fact that on my birthday it had been 2 months since John’s passing.  I guess at this point both are just tough to believe.  The thing is I was sitting in a coffee shop on my birthday when I read that line above and sat for 15 minutes.  I don’t know what it was but I was able to block out any other noise there and just be in that moment.  It had been a while since I had talked to John so I did that day.  I took the line above as if I’m speaking with John, I’m speaking with an extension of the Omnipotent.  Now I didn’t pray to John, I just talked.  It was one of the best 15 minutes I’ve had  in a while.  I did have a few tears in that time, but afterwards I felt so refreshed and honestly had a great birthday the rest of the day and for about 12 hours after not a worry crossed my mind until I fell asleep.  Sometimes in our quietest times, we have the most to say.  I continue to find that true.

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The other thing that has been on my mind the past couple weeks is the quote above from a fairly smart dude.  There really are only 2 ways you can live your life whether you think everything or nothing is a miracle.  I sit back and think about this line and really cannot fathom how people can look at life and not think everything is a miracle.  We’re the product of one out of millions of sperm from the exact 2 people that when they conceived a child had you.  Whether those two people fell in love or not, got married or not, or even ever talked to each other again is irrelevant.  That one moment made you.  How is that not miraculous?!?!  You grew for 9 months and the right cells turned into a nose, fingers, organs, etc to create you.  You were born, raised, and became the person you are today.  Whether you like yourself or not, that is miracle.  You’re still here to wake up and see a sunrise.  The beauty behind this flaming star that is the perfect distance away from earth that it allows for the perfect climate to support life.  That sun gives light, warmth, and life from the dandelion in our yard to the dolphin in the ocean.  How is that not miraculous?

Turn on the TV.  A box sitting in your living room receives a signal from a satellite in space that also got another signal from a truck across the world that hooks into a bunch of cameras filming a soccer match and there is little delay between when it actually happens to when you see it on TV.  You can dial your phone and talk to someone hundreds of miles away.  How can you not look at technology and consider it miraculous that someone thought of this more so actually manifested it!!! How amazing is that?!?!

I guess what I’m trying to say is we’re all miracles.  Everything that happens is a miracle good or bad.  The thing that we need to really focus on is we have to power to be great.  We have the power to do miracles everyday.  What’s even more amazing is we were given the free will to use that power, or let it go to waste.  Let’s just hope that we all do not fall into the trap like the dude from Indiana Jones that dies at the end when he “Chose Poorly.”  So chose wisely and be the miracle.

Till Next Time

Dr. Christopher “TINY” Lane

Week 21: Back On Track

So I’ll be honest.  The past couple weeks my MKMMA studies have been lacking. Why?  Life.  Life got in the way.  Time with the MKMMA was sacrificed for things that I felt needed my time more.  I didn’t think it was affecting me, however getting back on my routine I can tell my mood and attitude have improved immensely and I will put it to a few things but one I want to talk about.  This Picture right here.time line

You might be asking what this is.  Well it’s a timeline.  The first date was the year I was born and as you can see next year I turn 40.  The date on the right is the year I feel  I will leave this earth physically.  I feel 95 is a pretty good age… I might live longer.  The line in the middle is where I’m at today at almost 39 years old.  Next we were supposed to take our favorite season.  It could be spring, summer, football season, and as we all know I’m a Christmas fiend!  Well in that line between today and 2072 I wrote how many Christmases do I have left?  Depending on when I pass in 2072 I have 55-56 left.  Wow that’s a lot, but it’s not as many as I used to have.  The next question is when will I begin?  When will I do the things I say I’m going to do so I can really enjoy my favorite time of year.  Do this for yourself.  Read it everyday.  Let it sink in that our time on this earth is limited, so make the most of the time you have.  Like that old saying goes it’s not the number of breaths you take but the number of moments that take your breath away.  How awesome would it be to truly enjoy the season or month you most like.  Maybe you take you birthday month off and travel.  How cool would that be?

This brings us to the next thing that I’ve really taken away recently.  The old 80/20 rule which can be a bit skewed at times however let’s take a look at the one I want to focus on and that is that 20% of our efforts yield 80% of our results.  Look at any part of your life and prioritize the most important things you need to do and you will see a couple specific tasks that are the most productive and most important to your business, your relationship, your health, it doesn’t really  matter.  Focus on those tasks and you’ll find yourself becoming much more productive.  Result producing activities.  If you’re building your business Facebook can help, but is that where you want to spend most of your time?  Probably not.  Laser focus on those one or two tasks that give you the most.  Unfortunately they are often the tasks wee least enjoy doing.  Well it’s time to own them.

So I’m looking at that card right now and it asks when will I begin?  When is now, not someday.  We always say we’ll start and someday isn’t it. Focus on your tasks and do it.  Just do it now.  It’s later in life than you think.

Till next time,

Dr. Christopher “TINY” Lane

Week 20: We Reach Further Than We Think

So along with week 20 over the past week I had a chance to sit down and watch Jim Carrey’s 2014 commencement at Maharishi University Of Management and it was amazing the parallels that there were between the two.  One of the biggest I took away from his talks was this quote: “I used to believe that who I was ended at the edge of my skin, that I had been given this little vehicle called a body from which to experience creation, and though I couldn’t have asked for a sportier model,  it was after all a loaner and would have to be returned. Then, I learned that everything outside the vehicle was a part of me, too, and now I drive a convertible.”  Another quote is “My soul is not contained within the limits of my body. My body is contained within the limitlessness of my soul.”

Now take the previous quotes and bring in some lines from the week 20 readings.  “So long as you do this you limit yourself to superficial conditions, and make yourself a beast of burden for those who think.”  Another is “When you begin to perceive that the essence of the Universal is within yourself.”

We don’t give ourselves enough credit for the power that we have and not only that the impact we have on others.  A couple weeks ago I watched the move “I Am” directed by Tom Shadyac, coincidentally the director of Ace Ventura which starred Jim Carrey.  It talked a lot about many different things but one thing that really hit home was how our feelings can impact others.  One example was Tom was with a group of scientists that had hooked some electrodes up to a petrie dish of yogurt and these electrodes would measure energy within the yogurt and Tom’s affect on it.   Each time he would talk and especially if he would do something very emotional he would have an effect on what the readings were on the yogurt.  Pretty amazing.

With that being said we truly do have a bigger impact on the rest of the world than we know.   If some simple statements by Tom had that amount of affect on the yogurt, think of what our moods can do to others.  How our anxiety, anger, hate, apprehension, and fear can have an impact on someone in the same room.  Now think about how much we can impact others if we now carry around the feeling of love.  The feeling of empathy.  The feeling of hope.  The feeling of happiness.  That impacts people too.  That aura that some people say they can see around people, while can’t necessarily be seen, it can definitely be felt.

The Soviets in the 1960’s ran an experiment on a mother rabbit and her babies.  The mother was on shore with electrodes in her brain and the baby rabbits were taken into a submarine that was submerged.  As a baby rabbit was killed the electrodes recorded the brain of the mother rabbit reacting many miles away.  Amazing!!  If rabbits have this ability do you not think that humans do as well?  How many times have you heard of a family member that had this horrible feeling in their gut only to find out something bad had actually happened to another family member at that same time.

So what is my point of all this?  My point is we are not just our bodies, we are much more powerful than that and have an impact far greater than we will ever truly understand for a while.  So what you focus on can have an impact on others.  Focus on love, hope, happiness, and empathy and just see how things start improving around you.  This leads into Jim Carrey’s great last line: “You are ready and able to do beautiful things in this world and after you walk through those doors today, you will only ever have two choices: love or fear. Choose love, and don’t ever let fear turn you against your playful heart.”

Till next time

Dr. Christopher “TINY” Lane