Here we are another week is almost gone and February is only a couple days away. Every year that passes by seems to go quicker and quicker. Each event seemed like it happened only yesterday when in fact it was 2 or 3 months ago. In the great words of Mr. Ferris Bueller, “Life moves by pretty fast. If you don’t stop and look around for a while, you could miss it.” When I was younger I really didn’t see that. Days at school drug by, months at school drug by. The time it would take to get from Thanksgiving to Christmas seemed like years. Now Memorial day hits and before you know it the kids are back in school. Then it’s Halloween and what seems like a couple weeks (probably due to Christmas decorations being out already) it’s Christmas. I was saying to my fiancee right after John’s funeral that we’re going to be sitting there and all of a sudden it will be a year later. It used to seem like life was going slow, now it seems like at times life is passing us by.
Well then it’s time to get more involved in the game. That game of life that we very often aren’t sure if we’re doing it right. If we’re winning or losing. The thing we do have to realize is that each one of us is called. What are we called to do? That’s different for us all. Like I mentioned in my last blog we’re here to help others but how? That is where our calling comes in. Some people hear their calling in their teenage years and live their calling for 70 years and have a very fulfilling life. Some of use don’t hear that calling until our 30’s, 40’s, 50’s, hell even into our 70’s. The thing is we’re all called to do something. I am learning more and more what my calling is every day. It may hit us one day like a ton of bricks, or it may take tragedy to open our eyes to what was there all along.
The problem is that very often people are called and they don’t answer that calling and end up living an unfulfilling life. Others answer the call but when it gets to the point of going from the known to the unknown, fear sets in. Dragons come along that prey on us. That keep us from filling our destiny. The problem is that many times fear is a fake story that we told ourselves. It’s a reality that we have created in our minds from a story we told ourselves that isn’t even true. We get this thought in our heads that hasn’t even happened and soon that becomes our reality that we base our life decisions off. When you sit there and truly think about it this hits the nail on the head. I think about some fears I have and go HOLY S**T! That never actually happened that is just something I conjured up in my mind and now it has become such a huge reality at least in my internal world that it’s holding me up from answering that call. We’ve all done it. We’re afraid to ask that guy/girl out because of the reality we’ve created in our minds. We’re afraid to approach a well respected friend on a business opportunity because we think they will say no and humiliate us and we’ll lose them as a friend. We’re afraid to hit the gym because we think that everyone there is judging us on how we look.
Once you realize that these fears are just dragons things will get better. Unless your name is Bilbo and you’re travelling through Middle Earth (my hobbit Reference) you don’t have to worry about these dragons. They’re not real but they still need to be slayed. How do we slay them? Through action. Action cures all. If you’re afraid to make a call you make calls until you’re not afraid. If you’re afraid to ask someone out on a date, you ask people out until you aren’t afraid. If you’re afraid to hit the gym, you hit the gym until you’re the one people might be intimidated by. John’s dad Larry always told me in archery hunting the best way to practice shooting deer is to shoot deer. Sure you’ll miss occasionally, but action cures all. Get out there and just take that one step. Just a little action everyday and before you know it you’ll be answering you call.
Till next time
Dr. Christopher “TINY” Lane
So I’m a little late this week again this week with my blog. I’m not sure if I’m just waiting for the right words to hit me or if I’m just procrastinating. I think it’s a little of both. But the it hit me. Earlier this week we had Martin Luther King Day, a day to honor an amazing man. There are a couple quotes of his that really hit me this week. One was what I posted above. “Darkness cannot drive out darkness: only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate: only love can do that.” Wow. this goes directly in line with lesson 17. We focus on what we want. We work with the law of growth. The law of attraction. “If you wish to eliminate fear, focus on courage. If you wish to eliminate lack, focus on abundance.” The law of growth right there. That is what I am struggling with a little right now is focusing on courage, abundance, health. The positives not the negatives. However what I am figuring out is that I am recognizing when I am looking at the negative more often and am able to get away from that with the law of substitution.
This moves onto the other quote. “Life’s most persistent and urgent question is, what are you doing for others?” This again is right in line with what I’m studying. You get what you give. As soon as you truly wake up every day looking at your life as a service to others, as to how you can help other people this will begin to return to you. Get out of your old blueprint of your life and let go. The story of how tribes would catch monkeys. in Africa. The hunter takes a jar with an opening slightly larger than a monkey’s hand. He ties a rope around the neck of it using a knot, called a monkey’s knot which is a cradle of the rope around the jar. The hunter places some food in the glass jar, like rice or a banana slice. The monkey reaches his hand into the jar, grabs the food, making a fist with his paw. Now, the monkey’s dilemma: the monkey cannot get his hand out of the jar unless he drops the food. The neck of the jar is simply not wide enough. Of course, the monkey could drop the food and easily get his hand out, but it won’t.
The question is what are you holding onto that is not letting you become the person you were meant to be? I’m figuring that out.
Till next time
Dr. Christopher “TINY” Lane
During the past week I saw this on social media. It said:
“The reality is that you will grieve forever. You will not “get over” the loss of a loved one; you will learn to live with it. You will heal and you will rebuild yourself around the loss you have suffered. You will be whole again but you will never be the same. Nor should you be the same nor would you want to.”
If you’ve read my past 2 weeks worth of blogs you know what has gone on in my life. Something that will change me forever. Just reading this passage really opens up my mind to what’s coming up. I do feel that what has happened will allow me to get to my TRUE PURPOSE in life. The reason I was placed on this earth. There is that saying we have two important days in our lives; The day we are born and the day we find out why. I’m finding more and more each day why.
I hope that in reading the title people don’t think I’m being arrogant but I’ve seen that term a lot this week and it is true for all of us. We are all Nature’s and god’s greatest miracles. No one prior to us has the features you have, the voice you have, the mind you have, the heart you have, the abilities you have all rolled up into one amazing miracle. And with that being said I have something in front of me. A HUGE opportunity. This too was in the readings this week. “I have been given eyes to see and a mind to think and now I know a great secret of life for I perceive, at least, that all my problems, discouragements, and heartaches are, in truth, great opportunities in disguise.”
Well this opportunity has been cloaked big time in heartache and mourning. This is going to hurt for a while but I have 100% faith that there will be good to come out of this. There will be amazing opportunity for all who have been affected. There will be the silver lining to that cloud. Why? Nature know’s no defeat, and since I am nature’s greatest miracle neither do I.
Where do I start though? Well let’s go back to the movie Bruce Almighty. Why wouldn’t we go back to a Steve Carell? How do you change the world? One random act of kindness at a time. Kindness. That is how we will begin. Being kinder to others. Showing more love to others. Not because we have to but because we want to. Because we know we get what we give. Because this is the example I was given by a good man on how to live life and I can’t let him down. I need to carry on his legacy and do everything can when people need help. To help people even when not asked. To offer service to someone without getting any recognition. Random acts of kindness is how I will begin and that is how we will start the healing process.
Till next time
Dr. Christopher “TINY” Lane
This past week was perhaps the toughest week I’ve had in a long time, maybe perhaps my entire life but it pales in comparison to what my aunt, uncle, cousin, and John’s wife are going through right now. The one thing that provides any comfort to me for them is the fact that they are surrounded with so much love right now, and even better they can feel it.
Love. I’ve been reading a book called “The Greatest Salesman in the World.” It’s a very simple book to read and the second chapter that I read was on love. The line that keeps getting repeated is “I will greet this day with love in my heart.” That line stuck with me when I read it and it continues especially now. Another passage that really seems to be coming to my mind is “I love the sun for it warms my bones; yet I love the rain for it cleanses my spirit. I love the light for it shows me the way; yet I love the dark for it shows me the stars. I welcome happiness for it enlarges my heart; yet I endure sadness for it opens my soul.”
Love is what brought my Uncle Larry and Aunt Judy together. Love is what bore my cousin John and raised him. Love is what brought John and Tracy together. Love is what is going to heal the wounds from this tragic event. To sit at Larry and Judy’s house was truly the epitome of love. A house that just hours before were at a funeral in tears saying their last good byes were now laughing over memories of my beloved cousin. A house that just hours before could barely muster a smirk, was now overrun with smiles. Rarely a tear was shed until the TV station aired a tribute to John, and even then there is a picture of 30 people sitting in front of a TV, many with smiles. It truly was a celebration of John’s life and one that he would have approved of.
I’ll be honest, I didn’t think I accomplished much this past week, but yet I may have accomplished so much more than I could ever imagined in the same sense with some of the simplest of things. A picture. A bouquet placed on the ground. A smile. A hug. A story. A text. A short writing. Things that were meant as therapy for me, ended up helping others. Something I learned is don’t ever underestimate the power that you can have to help others.
The line up above “yet I endure sadness for it opens my soul” is so very true right now. I’ve done more things in the past week to open my soul than I’ve done in the past 10 years. If that’s the legacy my cousin’s death leaves then it will be one that I am forever grateful for and to that I say Thank You John. Thank You for being an example to me of how a person should treat people. Thank You for being an example of what a good man is. Most Importantly Thank You for being my cousin, my brother, my friend.
Till Next Time
Dr. Christopher “TINY” Lane
So I am a little late with my blog post this week and I apologize. This week our task was to focus on harmony with everything. When I did this I almost looked with reference to the movie Avatar with how they truly were in harmony with their land. Well this past week when focusing on harmony I was at the heights of joy and now I’m on the other end. On New Year’s Eve my fiance’s daughter was married and it was a great night of dancing, laughing, and a few drinks to celebrate her marrying the love of her life. It was a great way to end 2015.
Well now to the other end. We had a pheasant hunt planned for the last Saturday of the season with family and friends and it wasn’t just a good day, it was a great day of hunting up to the point that my cousin John collapsed in the field and soon after was pronounced dead at the hospital.
Since then I’ve done a lot of thinking… a lot. I’m not asking why this happened at all. I realize if I try to ask why, I’m going to go crazy. I grew up with John. Our families lived a mile apart. His dad and my dad are brothers and John and I were only a year apart so we were very close when we were younger. Whether it was shooting sparrows out of the chicken coop at Grandma and Grandpa Lanes, sledding down the hills in our pasture, to later in our lives hunting pheasants, he was like the brother I never had. I was very excited when I decided to go up to South Dakota State University for college because he was already up there. Well cousin John partied a little too much and left after one year, went to Southeast Votech in Sioux Falls and worked hard until he was the head engineer at one of the TV stations in Eastern South Dakota.
John was a stubborn and pig headed guy at times, but he was also one of the nicest and perhaps the most loyal friend a guy could have. He was always willing to help, and he was so much help to my chiropractic practice because any computer problem, he could fix. At one point we had over 200 viruses on our computer, and he was able to take all the viruses off without losing any info.
I’ve had a couple days to reflect on this since that tragic event happened and here is what I can say. First we should be so lucky as my cousin and brother John to die doing something we love to do surrounded by people who love us. He literally shot a rooster about 5 minutes before he went down. What a lucky SOB to go that way. Second I have no concern for where he is now for I am certain it is somewhere good, especially for a man as good as John. Third, the best way we can keep his spirit alive is to continue to live our lives. Of course we will mourn his passing, but we actually had a goose hunt scheduled for this coming Saturday, one week after he died. My gut reaction was to cancel it, but a day later I talked to everyone and knew that we need to do this hunt. John would definitely call us a bunch of wussies if we didn’t go. Fourth and perhaps the most important is life is short enough if we live till we’re 80, but especially if you’re taken from earth at the age of 39. Get out of your own way. Live your life the way you want to. Don’t hold grudges towards your friends and family because they can be taken from you in a moment. And in the end, just love yourself and others. Godspeed John. I love you.