Week 24: I Am My Own Worst Enemy

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Well we’re getting close to the end of this 26 weeks learning about myself.  Trying to develop myself into a much more self directed, free thinking person.  It’s been 25 weeks of ups and some of the lowest lows I’ve ever had and perhaps one of the biggest lessons that I finally realized was in this past week.  I know I’ve talked about our impact.  I know I’ve talked about keeping positive thoughts.  I know I’ve talked about having no opinions.  I know I’ve talked about many other things in the past almost 6 months.

For the past month or two I’ve been asking myself a questions everyday and trying to figure out the answer.  “What am I pretending not to know?”  That’s an interesting question.  What does that mean?  Well what I’m saying is what am I lying to myself about.  What am I doing that I just talked about in my previous blog post?  In my mind and what actually caused some tears after last Sunday’s webinar is the true fact that I am truly in control of my life and truly have created what I have.

I know I have said it before but it is finally hitting me.  I am in the situation I am in because of not just my actions, but my thoughts, even those tiny little ones I feel are insignificant.  My chiropractic business is where it is at because of my actions and every thought I have.  When I go in with a patient and find out they aren’t doing what I’ve been teaching them to do to help get out of pain was first planted in my mind previously that I gave them the stretches with the tiny thought that they probably wouldn’t do it.  My relationships with my family are the way they are because of preconceived notions.  My life at home with my fiancee and her daughter, while good could always be better, are where they are because not only of my actions, but of the thoughts I ignore sometimes.  I go into things with an expectation and guess what? What I expect to happen acutally happens!!

So what does this mean?  I can totally change everything.  I didn’t realize the true impact I have on me, my life, and the people around me.  I couldn’t let go of my opinions and become a true observer of life.  I had my thoughts and notions have so much impact on my life that I keep manifesting exactly what my thoughts and notions said.

My biggest struggle is to become the quiet observer. To just sit there without any preconceptions. To not impose my thoughts over anybody.  This may sound crazy but look at quantum physics and the electron.  When an electron wasn’t being observed passing through a double slit it did one thing on the panel behind the slits.  When the physicists actually tried to observe the electron as they passed through the double slits, the electron did another thing.  We have science there to tell us that we can control things through observation.  We have an impact.  I know I sound crazy but it’s not the first nor is it going to be the last time you call me crazy.

Now moving onto perhaps the biggest thing I have taken away from my time with the MKMMA and it goes with this quote.

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When you realize this you’ll be free.  What I mean by this is no price is too high to pay to figure out what your purpose in life is.  You can never go too far trying to find out who you were meant to be and what you were meant to do.  I’ve come to the realization that we don’t truly live until we find our purpose.  I go to a  little clip from the movie Adaptation where the guy is talking about a flower that is very deep and would need an insect with a 12″ nose to pollinate it.  Darwin hypothesized that there was an insect with a 12″ nose around to pollinate it otherwise how else would it continue to live?  He was right.  In the movie the guys talks about this flower and insect and their relationship and here is how he ends it.

“Point is, what’s so wonderful is that every one of these flowers has a specific relationship with the insect that pollinates it. There’s a certain orchid look exactly like a certain insect so the insect is drawn to this flower, its double, its soul mate, and wants nothing more than to make love to it. And after the insect flies off, spots another soul-mate flower and makes love to it, thus pollinating it. And neither the flower nor the insect will ever understand the significance of their lovemaking. I mean, how could they know that because of their little dance the world lives? But it does. By simply doing what they’re designed to do, something large and magnificent happens. In this sense they show us how to live, how the only barometer you have is your heart. How, when you spot your flower, you can’t let anything get in your way.”

What this comes down to is the fact that your purpose is the flower and you’re the insect.  You’re one thing that you were meant to do in life is there, you just need to find it.  Pollinate it.  Let it grow.  In the grand scheme of the world it may be something huge or pretty insignificant, but who cares.  In the grand scheme o f your life your purpose is everything.

We weren’t meant to work 40-50 hours a week for 40-50 years only to retire when our bodies are falling or have fallen apart and sometimes our minds have as well.  The other part is many people don’t make it to that point.  My cousin John had a great life, but he’ll never be able to get to that point.  A 17 year old where I live just passed away this week and she’ll never be able to find her purpose and truly live life.  Why spend it binge watching Gray’s anatomy, Lost, or Walking Dead?  Is that what you were put on this earth for?  Is that what you feel God wants you to do?  I doubt it.  One of the biggest tragedies is not living up to our potential and sitting there on our death bed and having our talents surround us looking back at us wondering why we spent our time doing nothing.  Putting more effort into a party with our friends than trying to help ourselves live to our fullest potential. I’ve done this too so I;m not pointing fingers at anyone.  What I do know is that my eyes are even more open to what I am doing to affect my life, and what I can do to make it better.  I hope you figure out the same.

Till Next Time

Dr. Christopher “TINY” Lane

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Week 23: Don’t Drain Yourself

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I’ve had this picture above up previously and I see it, but don’t always follow up.  I continue to get in my own way.  The thing is that we all get in our own way.  The problem is that we lie to ourselves.  We tell ourselves we’re happy.  We tell ourselves we’re satisfied with how we look and feel physically.  We tell ourselves that we’ll just stay with this job.  The thing is we keep lying to ourselves.  What happens is that we continue to defend ourself to ourself and that drains us.  We spend so much time justifying what is going on in our lives and the thing is it drains us of our energy, motivation, drive, vitality, and most importantly it drains us of our LOVE.

The thing is that not only do we lie to ourselves but we also tend to live our lives trapped by dogma, which is living with the results of other peoples’ thinking.  Other people won’t die for you so don’t let them live for you.  We at some point need to become our true self.  The person we were meant to be.  The person that takes no effort to be.  The person that you can look at in the mirror and say “I did my best today with what I had.  Let’s do it again tomorrow.”

I saw this quote today and it really hits home hard.

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At times I am myself.  At times I’m an not true to myself.  What has that done to me?  It’s drained me.  It’s made me not the best person I can be.  Worst of all it’s robbed me of some of my love for everything.  Don’t get me wrong I still show love, but not to the best of my abilities.  This was a tough day today realizing this.  This was a great step.

Till Next Time

Dr. Christopher “TINY” Lane

Week 22A: It’s Your Fault

 

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So I’m sure you looked at the title and thought that it was fairly blunt.  The next thing you’re wondering is what did I do wrong?  Well what I want to tackle this week is where people are at in their lives, and yes this includes me.  Now brace yourselves.  This next statement is in all capital letters not because I’m yelling but because I want to be sure you truly internalize it.

YOU ARE EXACTLY AT THE PLACE IN YOUR LIFE YOU’RE MEANT TO BE AND YOU ARE THERE BECAUSE OF YOUR CHOICES AND NO OTHER REASON.

Wow that’s a little sobering isn’t it?  The reason you’re overweight is because of you.  The reason you hate your job is because of you.  The reason you’re in a relationship that isn’t good for you is because of you.  The reason you’re life isn’t where you want it is because of you.  It’s not due to genetics, your ex wife/husband, your parents, your education, or anything else, it is because of you and the choices you made.  Now it wasn’t just one choice that made you unhealthy and overweight, it was small daily choices you continued to make over and over that added up to you being unhealthy.  It wasn’t one choice that put you in the relationship you’re in.  It took many small choices to stick around even after there were some things telling you that maybe you shouldn’t be in that relationship.  The same holds true for your job and every other facet of your life.

It’s tough to admit that but once you do I’m telling you things will change.  How?  Well the biggest thing is you quit playing the victim.  Once you quit playing the victim the biggest thing that you can get out of that is not only are you where you’re at in life because of your choices, but now it gives the control of your life back to you and it puts all the power into your hands to change it.  Isn’t that awesome?  You and only you have the power to make those changes.  If you’re the victim yet, that change won’t happen.  Once you take responsibility you have taken all the power back and can now start making those same simple small choices and actions daily to get your life moving in a better direction.

All too often today people blame their problems on everything else but themselves, and that creates this feeling that there is no way out.  But as I told you above there is.  People talk about massive action all the time, but many of the the biggest successes out there did small simple tasks day after day until one day it looks like they were an overnight success.

So take that power back and find a few small things you can do everyday and soon your life will change.

Till Next Time

Dr. Christopher “TINY” Lane

 

Week 22: Be The Miracle

 

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So this week was a good week for me and honestly I’m excited to be doing another week with the same readings.  The 15 minutes I sit at night and meditated/relaxed my mind/reflected was great this week.  We were supposed to concentrate on Tennyson’s lines “Speak to Him, thou, for He hears, and spirit with spirit can meet, Closer is He than breathing, and nearer than hands and feet.”  In focusing on “speaking to him” you are in touch with the omnipotence.

So on March 2nd I turned 39 years old.  My how they go by in a blink.  The thing that I couldn’t figure out was which was more shocking to me; the fact that I’m 39 or the fact that on my birthday it had been 2 months since John’s passing.  I guess at this point both are just tough to believe.  The thing is I was sitting in a coffee shop on my birthday when I read that line above and sat for 15 minutes.  I don’t know what it was but I was able to block out any other noise there and just be in that moment.  It had been a while since I had talked to John so I did that day.  I took the line above as if I’m speaking with John, I’m speaking with an extension of the Omnipotent.  Now I didn’t pray to John, I just talked.  It was one of the best 15 minutes I’ve had  in a while.  I did have a few tears in that time, but afterwards I felt so refreshed and honestly had a great birthday the rest of the day and for about 12 hours after not a worry crossed my mind until I fell asleep.  Sometimes in our quietest times, we have the most to say.  I continue to find that true.

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The other thing that has been on my mind the past couple weeks is the quote above from a fairly smart dude.  There really are only 2 ways you can live your life whether you think everything or nothing is a miracle.  I sit back and think about this line and really cannot fathom how people can look at life and not think everything is a miracle.  We’re the product of one out of millions of sperm from the exact 2 people that when they conceived a child had you.  Whether those two people fell in love or not, got married or not, or even ever talked to each other again is irrelevant.  That one moment made you.  How is that not miraculous?!?!  You grew for 9 months and the right cells turned into a nose, fingers, organs, etc to create you.  You were born, raised, and became the person you are today.  Whether you like yourself or not, that is miracle.  You’re still here to wake up and see a sunrise.  The beauty behind this flaming star that is the perfect distance away from earth that it allows for the perfect climate to support life.  That sun gives light, warmth, and life from the dandelion in our yard to the dolphin in the ocean.  How is that not miraculous?

Turn on the TV.  A box sitting in your living room receives a signal from a satellite in space that also got another signal from a truck across the world that hooks into a bunch of cameras filming a soccer match and there is little delay between when it actually happens to when you see it on TV.  You can dial your phone and talk to someone hundreds of miles away.  How can you not look at technology and consider it miraculous that someone thought of this more so actually manifested it!!! How amazing is that?!?!

I guess what I’m trying to say is we’re all miracles.  Everything that happens is a miracle good or bad.  The thing that we need to really focus on is we have to power to be great.  We have the power to do miracles everyday.  What’s even more amazing is we were given the free will to use that power, or let it go to waste.  Let’s just hope that we all do not fall into the trap like the dude from Indiana Jones that dies at the end when he “Chose Poorly.”  So chose wisely and be the miracle.

Till Next Time

Dr. Christopher “TINY” Lane